"And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:" (Hebrews 12:5 KJV)
"The strong right arm of the LORD is raised in triumph. The strong right arm of the LORD has done glorious things! I will not die; instead, I will live to tell what the LORD has done. The LORD has punished me severely, but he did not let me die. Open for me the gates where the righteous enter, and I will go in and thank the LORD. These gates lead to the presence of the LORD, and the godly enter there. I thank you for answering my prayer and giving me victory!" (PSALM 118:16-21 NLT)
The first thing that I feel needs to be said, more than anything, is that God loves us, so much more than we can ever know! No matter what it takes, He wants His children to be with Him; which is why He does whatever it takes to make sure that we make it through this life, and into the perfect life that He has made for our eternity!
That said, we must be very aware of God's discipline, when we are going through whatever it might be; even if it isn't meant to be discipline! Yes, I know it doesn't make a whole lot of sense; but the oldest Book in the Bible is the Book of Job; and if you have spent any time at all reading it, you must know that it is something like a two-headed coin: one side, righteous Job; the other side, not so much!
Whatever it is that we might be going through the seems to be a form tearing down, or is some sort of punishment, will be something that makes us stronger on the other side, of whatever it might be. If we have deserved to be chastised, then we are blessed to be corrected; and if we are going through something that we don't deserve, we are even twice as blessed, because we get to experience the suffering of the Lord!
Hopefully that makes sense to some of you; because whatever we must go through, no matter how bad it might seem, never forget that God loves you! Whatever you are going through has His blessing towards your good; not to destroy you, but to give you the victory and abundant life...
"God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him." (James 1:12 NLT)