"Why do ye not understand my speech? even because ye cannot hear my word." (John 8:43 KJV)
"Those who are dominated by the sinful nature think about sinful things, but those who are controlled by the Holy Spirit think about things that please the Spirit. So letting your sinful nature control your mind leads to death. But letting the Spirit control your mind leads to life and peace. For the sinful nature is always hostile to God. It never did obey God's law, and it never will. That's why those who are still under the control of their sinful nature can never please God." (Romans 8:5-8 NLT)
Anywho! This is one of those issues that many people might struggle with, both personally and in regard to their judgment of others. First off: Does the Holy Spirit leave the you when you disobey God? Some say yes, and some say no. What say you?
Personally, I believe that once we have been born again of God's Spirit, that new life will remain with us for eternity. This I believe is the promise of New Life. That said, there is a difference between having the Holy Spirit dwelling within you and being filled with the Spirit. I believe that the Holy Spirit is a gentleman and will not force us to do anything; which also means, that the more you don't listen and follow His guidance, the less you will receive His prompting and help in making choices.
If you want the technical term for that, I believe the term is called: Quenching the Spirit! You cannot get rid of God's Spirit, but you sure can ignore Him and be stuck trying to make life happen on your own. But He is always hanging in there, because you have become the property of Jesus Christ; you are no longer a citizen of earth, but of heaven.
Interesting enough, there are different areas in heaven, as some believe. There is a very similar structure as the Temple, where there is an inner court and an outer court; one for those that served others, and one for those that served themselves. This may or may not be the actual case, but it is worth considering where it is you want to be and why.
Regardless of that speculation, the Holy Spirit is given to us in the volume by which we can hold Him. If we want to be filled with the Holy Spirit, then there needs to be room for that filling. This is called cleaning house! The more room we make for Him to dwell within your heart, the more room He will take up and control.
If that is not your thing, and you want to hold onto some of the control, then you are being selfish and are actually serving yourself. There is a pretty good chance you are letting your sinful nature control your heart and your mind; you will end up not understanding what the Holy Spirit says and way.
How do you want to be, controlled or out of control? This, I do not believe is a heaven or hell choice; but it is a choice, in one way or another, regarding life or death. But what do I know...
"But you are not controlled by your sinful nature. You are controlled by the Spirit if you have the Spirit of God living in you. (And remember that those who do not have the Spirit of Christ living in them do not belong to him at all.) And Christ lives within you, so even though your body will die because of sin, the Spirit gives you life because you have been made right with God. The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as God raised Christ Jesus from the dead, he will give life to your mortal bodies by this same Spirit living within you." (Romans 8:9-11 NLT)